I have 2 daughters Raven 15 and Teirrah 12, me I am 34 and my name is Cassandra. Marcus is the little guy at the bottom. Raven and I share blouses and shirts and shoes. Now the dilemmas come in because I am more "flashy" and like to dress up and Raven is more "comfortable" and "plain" than I would like her to be and I understand that clothes could be an expression of how someone feels. Raven borrows some of my shirts and she likes to dress them down with a tank top and I constantly find myself "fixing" her clothes all day because of the way they fit. Sometimes the shirt is too low so I pull it up or sometimes the shirt is too short and I am pulling it down so she doesn't show "too much". She has this blue tank top that I detest and she loves to wear that under her tops as well. Like the shirt she is wearing in the picture I think she looks really nice in the picture but now she barely wears the shirt and she can’t find the belt to it. I wonder if that is the case because I picked the shirt out for her. (lol) Now when I get dressed and she doesn’t like what I have on she will say, "Its okay," which translates to "I really don’t like it". Teirrah is the one that appreciates my style. (LoL) Another thing is that Raven likes to wear my shoes, which I don’t mind at times, but I always catch her twirling in them half off her foot, or she’s stepping on them while she sits down, which by the way drives me crazy because she is ruining the shoe. And she shapes the shoe to her foot and when I get them back they are leaning over on both sides. I just don’t like to see a good shoe ruined.

Now my daughters and I we have a wonderful relationship. We talk for hours and we enjoy the company of one another. I just think Raven hides behind her clothes because she is not as "small" on top as the other girls in school. She is really not "a big girl", as some people call her, she is just "blessed with more on top". The truth is she is a JR in high school and I just want her to dress where she feels confident, like she can conquer the world, and not have to hide behind her clothes because she is not as "small" in size as the other girls. And I definitely don’t want her to feel less than anyone else because she thinks that her clothes aren’t as good as her peers. I want her to embrace what she was given and love her self. I always tell her she is beautifully and wonderfully made but I am MOM, I am supposed to say that. This is what she tells me. She is a beautiful girl and I just want to show her no matter what her size is she can still be beautiful in "her size" not everyone else’s; and see the beauty in her self like I do and others do that love and care for her. But most of all no one wants their child made to feel bad about themselves and I think this would help me in boosting her confidence again, and help her to see her beauty. It would also help out a lot when shopping and we don’t have to disagree on everything. And I understand this could be just a difference of opinion but us Moms, we see even when our child thinks we aren’t looking. Now I know clothes don’t make a person but it never hurts to feel good about who you are and how you look.